Most people would love to be in a long term committed relationship, but unfortunately it is not so simple. The dynamics of a love relationship has got to be one of the most complicated things in life.
This post is not a call to throw in the towel at the very first sign of an issue, but there are certain issues that cannot just be worked on, basically beyond repair, and that’s when you should leave.
Unfortunately, Not every relationship can and should be salvaged.
Even if the relationship looks good on paper, and everyone around sees you both as the perfect couple. Always remember that, “they” are not there in the relationship with you. Ultimately, a relationship is between two people and two people only. Three is a crowd.
Here are some of the reason why a relationship should not continue, especially if it has not progressed into a lifetime of commitment.
1)You do not agree on most things
There is nothing that kills a relationship faster than having constant disagreement. Worse when it leads to violent outrages.
You do not seem to be able to come to a compromise on most things. It is important to note that, as two different individuals coming together, there is bound to be some form of conflict.
Our thoughts, behaviors, etc are shaped by our background and experiences. But with time, those disagreements should begin to be limited as you have begun to understand each other more.
Not that all issues will completely go away, but they should come with less intensity than before, if this is not happening, then you both may not be compatible.
2) One partner feels they are doing the other a favor
A relationship is of benefit to both individuals.
But in a situation where it seems one party feel they are doing the other party a favor by being with them, then it is good grounds to end it.
No one should be made to feel that they are just being tolerated, and that is what happens in situations like this.
3) There is Abuse
The worse thing that can happen in a relationship is abuse in any form. There are different forms of abuse ranging from physical to emotional.
Abuse should never be found in a loving relationship and at the first signs of it, that relationship should be put on hold.
It is better to be alive and safe, than to be in a relationship.
4) You both want different things out of life
You may have love for each other, but want different things out of life. You shouldn’t be in a relationship and be living completely separate lives.
If overlooked now, those things will be a recipe for future disaster. It is better to end things early on, before it advances, you get too deep and leaves one or both of you shattered.
Staying too long in a relationship leading nowhere, can cause a lot of harm.
5) It is a cycle of constant blame
A disastrous relationship is one in which no one one takes responsibility for anything. It is a constant cycle of blaming and shaming.
Both individuals in a relationship have a role to play in any problem that arises in a relationship. A relationship may be beyond repair when one partner feels the other one is always the cause of all their problems.
6) You no longer share things with each other
When you or your partner is no longer the first person you call when you both have exciting news, or when you are troubled, its a sign that the connection is no longer there.
Everyone else hears of things going on in your life before you tell each other.
7) You no longer want to spend time together
You find yourself wanting to spend less time with them and vice versa.
You give excuses and find the slightest reason to not want to be with them. Even when you happen to spend time together, you find yourself wishing you were somewhere else.
Or you might find that they are the one who find a reason not to spend time with you.
It is not worth it to keep dragging a relationship when you don’t find joy in each others company.
At the end of the day, if you are reading this post, then you probably already recognize that your relationship is not as you desire.
No one can truly decide when it is time for you to leave a relationship, the choice still ultimately belongs to you.
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